About this episode
Have you ever walked away from a hard conversation and thought, What is wrong with me? Why did I react like that? Why can't I stay calm? In this episode of The Courageous and Confident Christian Mom Podcast, Marci Owen introduces the Reactor Part in Conflict and explains why your intense reaction is not your identity. Whether you snap, shut down, get defensive, cry, over-explain, or say something you later regret, your behavior may be giving you important information about your nervous system, protective parts, and unmet emotional needs. So many women carry shame after conflict, especially in marriage, motherhood, parenting adult children, or family relationships. They believe their reaction means they are too much, immature, unloving, broken, or failing. But what if your reaction is not proof that something is wrong with you? What if it is a signal that something inside of you felt threatened, overwhelmed, criticized, dismissed, or unseen? Marci teaches that you are not your behavior. Your reaction matters, and repair matters, but shame is not the path to lasting change. Through the lens of the Inner Relationship Method, you'll learn how the Reactor Part tries to protect you, why pressure builds before emotional reactions, and how to begin responding with more self-awareness, compassion, and emotional steadiness. In this episode, you'll learn: Why conflict can trigger intense emotional reactions How nervous system dysregulation affects communication What the Reactor Part is trying to protect Why you are not your behavior or your reaction How to stop shaming yourself after conflict Simple ways to repair, regulate, and return to your Resourced Self If you have ever felt guilty after snapping, shutting down, getting defensive, or reacting strongly in a relationship, this episode will help you understand yourself with more compassion and begin creating change from love instead of shame. 🌟 Useful Links & Resources from Marci ✨ 3 Secrets to Instantly Feel Better Scroll to the bottom of this page for quick, powerful tips to shift your emotional state fast. 💖 Join the Self Love YOUniversity A supportive space where Christian women learn to love themselves deeply, show up confidently, and live with purpose. 👉 Click here to enroll or learn more 🧭 Book a FREE Clarity Call Want to feel more grounded, calm, and confident—starting now? Let's talk. 🎯 Schedule your free call here 💌 Get Marci's Emails Real encouragement, practical tips, and personal insights to keep your heart strong and your mind grounded. 📬 Click here to join the list 🔗 Visit My Website: To learn more visit www.marciowen.com 🙏 Love the Podcast? Please take a moment to leave a review on your favorite platform. It truly helps more women find this work—and I'd love to hear your thoughts, insights, or questions. 📲 Stay Connected Email: marci@marciowen.com Instagram: @marci.owencoaching Facebook: Marci Owen Coaching Episode Website
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Have you ever walked away from a hard conversation and thought, What is wrong with me? Why did I react like that? Why can't I stay calm? In this episode of The Courageous and Confident Chris...